Changing Acquired Beliefs / Choosing New Influences
Elias has been saying for years that we don't change our beliefs, we
accept them. For a long time I thought he was cautioning us not to
fight our beliefs - which only gives them energy - thereby neutralizing
their hold on us [or our hold on them]. Then they would
go away and stop bothering me! In other words, I thought he was saying
the way to change my beliefs was to accept them rather than resisting
them. Not so, it turns out. Apparently we usually keep to the same
basic beliefs and what we are changing is the influence of those beliefs.
It was only after several sessions with Kris on beliefs that I began
to understand what Elias was really saying. Kris has created two
categories of beliefs he calls 'prime' beliefs and 'acquired' beliefs.
Prime beliefs are part of the blueprint of this dimension and are a
necessary part of our participation here. Prime beliefs include things
like gravity, sunrise, air, and ‘I will continue to breath and digest my dinner even when I sleep'.
Acquired beliefs are part of our conditioning in any particular
family and culture, and we can change them by simply releasing our
concentration on them and moving our attention to something we prefer.
We can change acquired beliefs. They are easy to recognize
because they usually come with value judgements; I am a loser, blonds
have more fun, oysters are delicious whereas insect larvae are gross,
life is hard, etc.
On the surface this looks like big difference between Kris, who says
we can change beliefs and Elias, who says we cannot. In my view, this
turns out to be merely a mixup of definitions.
Elias says that we have comparatively few beliefs and many, many influences of each belief. He gives the example of our prime belief in changing as we age, as it could be applied by a baseball player.
One influence might be that as the player gets older, her abilities
to play are reduced because of degraded physical abilities, associated
with aging. [influence - as we age our bodies decline in vitality]
Another influence might be that as the player gets older her
abilities increase because of more experience and understanding, also
associated with aging. [influence - as we age we experience an increase in wisdom]
There are many other possible influences of this belief in aging.
Which influence we choose to focus on is up to us as individuals with
free choice. The point being that the different influences we choose to
concentrate on, instruct our reality creation mechanisms to produce
very different kinds of realities, and very different kinds of
experiences.
[It seems clear now that what Kris calls prime beliefs are equivalent to Elias' beliefs. And what Elias calls influences are equivalent to Kris' acquired beliefs.]
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Here
is an example from my own experience of having the same belief but
changing influences. When I was a young man, I thought I had the
correct way of seeing the world. I had total faith in my view of the
universe and how it worked. I more than freely shared this viewpoint
with others and given the opportunity, would cheerfully correct other
people's points-of-view.
This attitude extended to my physical vision, which I unthinkingly regarded as giving me an accurate view of the real world. [As a visual artist, this was crucial in my understanding of my art.]
Paradoxically, while the intervening journey has taken me to many
wonderful places since my 20s - I am now 58 - I still have essentially
the same idea about my infallibility as the adjudicator of my reality
as I had when I was young.
My current view is that mine IS the only way of seeing the world
because it's the only way MY world can ever be seen - by me. This
understood flows from quite a different influence of the underlying
belief. I tell myself quite a different story now, about who I am, and
how the world works, and why I am the centre of my universe.
Since I create my own universe with my own perceptions, which are
utterly unique to me and can only be experienced by me, it follows that
I must be the ultimate expert and authority on what is happening in my
universe! As everyone else is in theirs too. So the basic belief, that
I am the sovereign lord of my reality, is the same.
What has definitely changed though, is the influence of this
belief. In the first case, I thought I was a smart-ass young man with
perfect eyesight - apart from wearing glasses since age 10 - with a
wonderful intellectual grasp of how the world worked. Some of the
behaviors inspired by this perspective were not very helpful, like
going around all the time thinking very seriously about everything, and
sometimes heatedly correcting other people's ideas about how the world
worked.
The new influence I have chosen progressively over the last ten years or so, is to accept and engage my reality as my
creation, flowing from much deeper and broader aspects of myself,
always motivated by my own best interests, and, in fact, always working
proactively on my behalf.
In terms of changed behavior, this is all about acknowledging and
accepting myself, and being willing to engage my whole, unknown but
trusted, self, and taking responsibility for this broader self's
amazing creativity. The changes inspired by this new influence can be
seen in almost every aspect of my everyday life and thought.
There is nothing in these ideas to motivate me to do some of the
uncomfortable things I used to do. Like always thinking so much, and
constantly justifying and defending my views. And happily, I no longer
feel compelled to correct other people's unfortunate misunderstandings
about how things work.
These new ideas about who I am and how the world works result in
greater and greater allowing of my own expressions - the reality I create -
to simply unfold naturally before my appreciative eyes. [No need to meddle, criticize, compare, correct or fix. Even understanding is an option!]
It is no coincidence that my life these days is filled with
confirmations of these influences - actual objective experiences that
are completely in line with these ideas and this way of thinking. This
is the power of the influence of our beliefs on our reality creation
mechanisms.
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Elias has said it is very rare, though not unheard of, for someone
to actually change their beliefs. It is within our power to do this but
we cannot drop beliefs altogether. The reason we cannot eliminate
beliefs is they are essential building blocks of this dimension.
Our primary beliefs about who we are, and how reality works, are
very deeply embedded in our awareness at layers where our conscious
mind rarely travels, and changing them involves altering the
foundational building blocks of our reality - no small undertaking. But
there is a much simpler way to 'change' our beliefs.
Our freedom lies in the myriad different influences of whatever beliefs we have engaged, and how we interpret these influences in our inner dialog, thoughts, feelings and action. [there
are so many possible influences of a belief, that you can basically
assume that given enough leeway, you could identify an influence of ANY
belief that gets you where you want to go.]
In fact I put out this challenge. I am prepared, as the "Belief-inator",
to debate anyone, on any belief whatsoever. Together we will
invariably come up with an influence of this very same belief, that
lets the person move their reality in whatever direction they choose.
[Keep in mind that what most people think of as a belief is
actually an influence. The way you know you have peeled back the
influences to the actual belief is when it becomes neutral - no
positive or negative associations. That's when you know you are dealing
with the mother-belief.]
"I am fat!" is not a belief but the influence of a primary belief, "How we think, feel and act affects the functioning of our physical body."
This seemingly self-evident truth is the belief behind the influence
chosen to be fat. The actual belief is neutral, while the influence
chosen may be loaded with duplicity and value judgements.
"I am skinny, fit, muscular, underweight, run down, 'in the pink', ..." are other influences of this belief. How
we choose to affect our bodies with our thoughts, feelings and actions
is where our freedom lies, because once we stop fighting influences we
don't like, and recognize and accept the neutral, underlying belief, we
can easily choose any other influence that suits our fancy.
Choosing a new influence is as easy as noticing and suspending
actions that reinforce the old influence, and choosing new behaviors
and self talk to line up with the desired influence.
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The
issues around my vision resonate well with these ideas. As discussed
above, I used to think it was my way or the highway when it came to how
I saw the world around me. I recall getting into huffy arguments with
people who saw things differently, about how things happened, or who
said what to whom.
In recent years my left eye has changed appreciably, and I actually
see a slightly different sized world [smaller] and a slightly warmer
color gamut through that eye, not to mention lots of floaters and
general blurriness in both eyes based on multi-focal glasses, [these glasses promised that everything would be in focus, when in reality nothing is in focus, but I digress.]
So now, even in objective terms, I know that how I see the world is
totally unique to me, and indeed can change by the hour depending on
how tired I am, and how much I've had to drink... [As a visual artist, this continues to be crucial to my understanding of my art.]
For these reasons we have graciously set aside, for the time being, telling other people how they see the world is wrong!
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The more I understand how unique and creative we are, the more I
admire the fact that we understand each other at all. Because you're in
your universe, and I'm in mine, and the level of agreement between our
universes is totally up to us. One could understand that this requires
deep layers of intimate exchange to work out all the details of how our
interactions will transpire.
It takes lots of planning, so to speak, to spin off all the
necessary shared probabilities, while giving appropriate due to
everybody's potential, and also meshing everybody's needs and
preferences into a ‘single' shared event. [imagine doing the math!]
Observe a busy intersection downtown if you want an astonishing
expression of this intricate confluence of layered intent. Everybody
going off in their own direction for their own reasons, and still
playing their part in the grand flow of the intersection herself. A
mind boggling display of individual and collective consciousness doing
a ‘reality dance' right there in front of our eyes.
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ELIAS: Yes. And let me also express to you, remember,
you are not eliminating beliefs, but you are widening your awareness,
and you are moving into an acceptance of beliefs
Now; in that acceptance, you recognize that you incorporate certain
beliefs and that they are expressed, but every belief incorporates many
influences, and therein lies your freedom. For regardless of what
beliefs you incorporate as expressed beliefs, they do not incorporate
merely one influence. Therefore, they do not incorporate merely one
choice. —Elias #1641
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KRIS: Now there are therefore prime beliefs that are
absolutely necessary to your physical experience in time and space. And
then there are those acquired beliefs that you utilize to limit your
experience of self. And though many individuals would like to do away
with beliefs entirely, we have spoken on this subject many times. There
are many people who misunderstand the notion of beliefs. It is
important to understand that in order to be whom and what you think you
are today, now, in this hour, in this moment, you literally believe
yourself to be who you are now. Of that there can be no question.
Otherwise you would not be in this here and now.
These particular prime beliefs are of such significant importance
that a study of them would grant you much awareness and wisdom,
especially in the field of being more than what you were before, in
line with value fulfillment. Thus by paying attention to, or noticing,
that there are prime and acquired beliefs, it can be easy to bridge the
notions of your limited enterprise of self to such a point where being
whom and what you are is not the issue. But learning to become more
than what you were then becomes truly the game that you play.
JOHN: Ah. So it’s not a matter of identifying or defining yourself, it’s a matter of going beyond whatever that might be.
KRIS: Indeed. Going beyond can be a very big word. Suffice it to
say that for the most part, as we have expressed before, you have a
collective tendency to always think too small, primarily due to fears
that harbor and keep close to your heart. But if you give yourselves
the opportunity, and perhaps even as yourself what it would be like if
you could become more than what you are tomorrow than what you were
yesterday, what would that lead to? Who would you be? Does that make
sense to you?
MARK: Yes.
KRIS: Indeed. Then for the moment, think what it would be like to have a very nice break.
JOHN: All right.
MARK: Indeed.
BREAK
—Kris Radio, Communication, Aug. 7, 2008