There are no accidents. There are no chance meetings. There is no kismet. Everyone you draw into your life you draw to be either a mirror or a reflection. That we so rarely pay attention to these reflections and mirrors explains why we are so unfamiliar with ourselves. Our
attention is most often on the other individual and so we don’t get the information we attempt to provide ourselves through the interaction. Generally we pay more attention to those we are intimate with than we do to the person we accidentally bump into on the street. Our friends and lovers don’t reflect more, but we do pay more attention to them, which offers the opportunity to view the reflection more clearly.
Many times we don’t pay attention to the mirror action of another individual because we are not ready to see ourselves. In keeping our attention on the other individual we block the creation of a relationship with ourselves. We typically believe it takes a minimum of two to create a relationship and so we rarely think about having a relationship with ourselves. How do we interact with ourselves? After all, relationship is all about interaction. But… all that we see, hear, smell, taste, and touch is created by each individual. We do not interact with any other individual as an expression of
Essence (Soul). The other individual as Essence merely offers its energy for you to do with as you please. It is our beliefs that tell us we interact with things outside ourselves and that friends, pets, possessions, etc., are not elements of us.
THEY ARE.What we directly interact with is our translation of an energy projection. The translation is done through our individual perceptions and from the
“Blueprints” we receive from the energy projected to us. WE INTERACT WITH OUR
PERCEPTION! So, when we engage a relationship with another individual we will create what we expect based on the influences of our beliefs. All of us create interpretations and translations of this swirling, moving energy.
We all experience the ups and downs of a relationship. For many it starts out well, and a few years later we’re beating ourselves up for being so blind to the “real” person we thought we loved. The problem, however, is not the other person or the relationship. It’s not them, them, them!! It’s us, us, us!! In those moments that we experience
conflict with our loved ones (or anyone for that matter) we must turn our attention to ourselves and ask: What am I experiencing in this moment? What are my
communications to me in this moment? What are my emotions trying to communicate to me?
Emotions are NEVER reactions. Emotions are
ALWAYS communications. They identify precisely what we are communicating to ourselves in the moment.
Emotion only appears to be a reaction because our attention is generally outside ourselves and we therefore tune into the objective experience or action first. Remember, the objective experience or action is a translation that arises simultaneously with an inner subjective state.
The Forgotten Self – as per design – had paid attention outwardly and then only afterwards does The Forgotten Self turn its attention back to Self. This is what makes it seem as though
emotion is a reaction. But, there has been a change in the blueprint whereby we are altering all of our reality. The rules by which we play our little game are changing, and the primary change lies in our remembering how we create. The veil of forgetfulness is being lifted. The objective world is abstract and changes constantly. What is important is our perception, which projects an ever-changing objective world. We may create hundreds of objective images to portray a single subjective state, and this is where our creativity lies. It is what keeps us from becoming bored with our game.
Let’s say you and your partner are in a heated conflict over the boundaries placed on your teenage son. (the illusion is that you direct your children) Not including your son, there are two realities at work here; the one you create and the one your partner creates. You are both in
The Forgotten Self mode, which means: 1) You are not in cooperation. 2) You are not accepting either you, your partner or your son. 3) You are not paying attention to you. 4) You are in defense mode protecting your belief. 5) You are in automatic response mode (you hold your belief as
absolute). Each of you feels threatened in the difference of opinion your partner displays.
The deeper reality is that you and your partner (all of us actually) are not different. You may each display different choices and behaviors, but you are both consciousness and consciousness is a unity. Elias has this to say about it:
“within this time framework, in this shift in consciousness, you are offering yourselves the opportunity to widen your awareness and become accepting of all other individuals’ expressions, recognizing that they are also yours, for they shall not be within your reality if you are not choosing these expressions also.”
The more we create a discounting and a lack of acceptance of ourselves, the more we project that outward. The more we project it outward, the more we will draw people and events to us to reflect that. The way we begin to interrupt this pattern is to simply notice that we are engaging it in the moment. Catch yourself as your emotional signal rises and remind yourself that you are interacting with your own perception. Notice that you are creating conflict and are therefore fighting with yourself. What are you fighting with within yourself? Often it is an issue of acceptance. Doing this will be a challenge, for in our moments of familiarity and passion we are unpracticed at paying attention to ourselves. We have been turning the signals of our emotions (sad, mad, glad, etc) into weapons against ourselves.
The following example is taken verbatim from session 800 of the Elias Transcripts:
“Hypothetically shall we say, two individuals may be engaging conversation. One individual may be expressing in a manner that is perceived by the other individual as irritating, initially. Therefore, the second individual is expressing an emotion of irritation. What is being acknowledged and received is the signal; the message is being ignored. The ringing of the phone is being acknowledged, but the receiver has not been engaged. Therefore, the signal of the emotion, which is what you term to be the feeling, continues and builds.
Now; as the message has not been received, the communication has not been recognized, and the signal continues. The individual begins responding to the signal.
Now; the signal has been identified as irritation. The response is to be projecting outward that energy in intensity.
Now; as the individual automatically responds to the signal and projects that energy outward, it is projected to the other individual, the first individual, and it is relayed once again back to the second individual. The second individual continues to NOT receive the message, the communication, and is merely paying attention to the signal.
The signal thusly becomes more intense, and the individual experiencing this unreceived message or communication and the continuation of the signal turns that signal into an expression of energy which is created in the form of a type of weapon, so to speak, to themselves, for they begin to block their own energy. They begin to discount themselves. They begin a lack of acceptance of self, devaluing their experience and their worth, and denying their choice, holding themselves in the position of merely continuing the signal.”
Elias goes on to say that one of the individuals in this example may stop the emotional signal, but because he/she didn’t receive the communication the signal will arise again, but in a different scenario. We constantly provide ourselves with communications to familiarize us with ourselves, but if we don’t pay attention, the same communication will be repeated over and over in infinitely creative ways. So, pay attention to the mirrors and reflections, for they are the movie screens upon which we project our individual communications.
Bill Marshall